Fix Your Eyes On Jesus


take it but don’t pass it back

ICE BREAKER (start here)

When somebody does something that hurts or offends you, what do you tend to do?  Do you pass it right back to them? Do you find someone else to pass it to? Do you stuff it and try to forget and move on?  Which of these three reactions feels most natural?

intro (read aloud before the discussion)

Jesus died on the cross. Most of us have heard that, but what does it actually mean?  What actually happened on the cross? Let’s chat about how the cross is the foundation of our salvation and the only way that actually makes relationships last!

SERMON DISCUSSION (Use as a guide for dialogue, let God lead, and read the verses aloud)

Who is bugging you right now? Who is annoying you? Who is getting on your nerves? Who is hurting, offending, not helping, not being sensitive, not respecting you? If it is appropriate, share. If not, simply think about it.

“Jesus came, not to make violence for relational peace, but to take violence for relational peace. He took it, and he did not pass it back!” Talk about those two phrases.

Read Luke 22:17-20. Him for us. He took our sin and aggression and our uncleanness, and he did not pass it back. What would it look like to practically do that in the relationship that is bothering or bugging you most right now?

Read Luke 23:34 twice. Why didn’t he pass back our sin? Because he absorbed it, defeated it, exhausted its strength, and dealt with it! So now he can pass back mercy, grace, and love instead. Knowing that Jesus has dealt with all sin, consider how you could pass back grace in a specific relationship today.

Read Luke 22:24-26. You know how the world works, Jesus says, but you are not to be like that. Wow! This reaches out to each one of us in every one of our relationships. Read that phrase aloud again, and share what the Holy Spirit says to you as the phrase is read aloud.

Let’s follow the way of Jesus. Talk about some of Jesus’ wonderful relationship tips and add a few of your own. (Ex. turn the other cheek, go the extra mile, pray for your enemy, respond with kindness, etc.)

MINISTRY TIME (Invite the Spirit of God to come – “Come Holy Spirit”)

Ask God to help you use the grace that he has given you for the one or the many in your life who are bothering you right now. Let the Holy Spirit do what the Holy Spirit does.

SPIRITUAL FORMATION (This is a weekly practice as we seek to become more like Jesus)

Spiritual formation is submission to being taken by God where we may not want to go so that we can become whom we truly want to be. We have all been hurt and deeply wounded by others. We are wondering, “Where is the validation? When has it been weighed and shown to matter?” This week, focus on the cross, and notice that the cross is God validating, weighing, and showing you personally that what has happened to you was serious, it mattered, and he took it.

daily reading

John 18 | Psalm 78
John 19 | Psalm 79
John 20 | Psalm 80
John 21 | Psalm 81
John 18-19 | Psalm 82
John 20-21 | Psalm 83